YES Day

Think back to your days as a child... despite all the happy memories, didn't there seem to be too many rules and regulations?  Even if your parents were pretty easy going, there were still a ton of do's and don'ts outside out the home.  This is were the BRILLIANT concept of YES Day enters the picture.

As a parent of two wonderful beings, I find myself needing to change the routine from time to time just to keep things fresh.  YES Day allows for that change to take place quiet naturally.  Simply put, YES Day is a designated day (or time period) to say YES to everything your children ask for.  That's all.   Then let the day unfold before your very eyes.

Already I am hearing the rumbling in the room and the reasons why this would never work in your situation.  Okay, here are some parameters to help ease your fears that your children will take over and leave you barricaded in a small room with nothing but a day old newspaper and half a sandwich...

• Pick a day and time that is easy for you - now if doing the entire day scares you choose a portion of the day and build up from there.
• Do not announce to the child that you are going to say yes to everything.
• Lift the Yes to everything rule if they ask for something that will harm them the planet or set you on a path to financial ruin
• Relax

Let me let you in on a little secret.  Most of the things your child(ren) ask for aren't really that big of a deal and YES Day allows you to enjoy the simplicities of life a little bit more!

Perfectionism

You know that list of fantastic ideas, projects and goals that you have written and re-written?  IT IS TIME TO GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO DO THEM!

Most women naturally punish themselves by waiting for the perfect day before starting new ventures.  My perfect day would include a completely organized and clean home, which includes laundry cleaned, folded and put away,  all emails and phone calls answered,  a full tank of gas in a freshly cleaned  (inside and out) car  and enough money to do all the home repairs that are currently waiting in queue.  And these things (along with a few others) are the "reasons" I have not found a way towards composting for the organic garden I say I want or starting the small group with other friends who agree we need to support each other and so forth.

You get the picture - right?  My reality is that the above mentioned may or may not take place but waiting for the perfect day only ensures that I am never going to do the things I say I really want to do.  Perfectionism gives me a false sense of reality and blocks my ability to function in a healthy manor.  Let go of perfectionism!   What has it gotten you so far?

I am giving myself permission (and time) to begin fully living life and at least making a step towards that list of things I say I want in my life.  All I have to do is take the first step.  No need to forecast about the what ifs!

Are you down?  Are you in?  Are you ready?


Okay, then say this with me - "Today, I have all I need to begin doing ______________(fill in the blank).  I will release the notion of perfection in order to live a life that honors what I value!  Say it three times out loud so that you begin to believe what you are saying!!! As a matter of fact repeat it each day and anytime you need a gentle reminder of the life you want to live.  And I'll see you on the other side!

Reasons to Give Thanks

When your child is given a gift as the parent our first thing is to make sure they thank the gift giver.  We would never want anyone to say our children have no manners or worse - they are ungrateful.  That kind of thought would knock us out of the running for PARENT OF THE YEAR!

So in order for us to stay in the running let's demonstrate the art of giving thanks - regularly!

Real fast name five reasons to give thanks -here are mine for today

1. connecting with other creative people.
2. a supportive family 
3. making a new friend this week 
4. completing a task 
5. the breath I breathe 
6. pleasant memories - okay that was one to grow on!!

Want to change the direction of your day?  Give thanks!

Laughing All the Way

I LOVE TO LAUGH!  I love the sensation my body gets when I am laughing.  I love the fact that you can actually loose control of your bodily functions while laughing.

Recently my son shared with me that while at lunch with friends and his teacher, a comment was made and he laughed in the process of drinking - you know what happened next.  The spraying of the table with" liquid laughter residue".  My son was not very happy and felt his friend should have exercised better timing.  I gently reminded him that while timing is everything in comedy, funny is funny because it is usually not planned.

I began remembering days where I laughed until the point of loosing control and realized I kept on laughing.  There are two places I can always count on loosing laugh calories; with my cousins from my mother's family and with our family friends the Hopsons. These remain 100% laugh-fests! Growing up there were many episodes of milk or kool-aid through the nose whenever we gathered with the Hopsons.  I am not sure how we ever got through a meal with them because it seemed someone always had something funny to say.  When I gather with my cousins, I accept the fact that it will take me twice as long to eat because of the laughter.  And even though the Hopson family and my family have experienced the regular losses and disappointments of life, there always seems plenty of room at the table for a huge helping of laughter.

Spa Friday

My darling daughter has managed to skirt the issue of having her fabulously full head of hair thoroughly combed through.  As her mother I am slightly embarrassed (only slightly) that she has out negotiated me and has rocked several versions of her last hair-do for a lengthy period of time.

Put your hands together for .... Spa Friday !!!  That's right, it is all in how you present the truth!  Now when I say let's comb your hair - the response is usually something similar to "tomorrow mommy".  However, who would say no to spa treatment?  Not my daughter!!

She parked her tricycle by the door and the spa experience began!  We still had some moments that were not spa-like, but in the end I think she will return for future service...

Mani and Herbal Pedi

Purse and Lunch Bag - must haves!

Let's hit the road!