Saturday, August 13, 2011

Learning as a Parent

Super Mom Action Figure from

Having gotten that out of the way, I want to share some things that I have learned in the process of accepting that I am not going to be nominated for this most sought after award.

  • Parenting teaches you about your own stuff - you think it is about guiding the life of a young one but at the end of the day you realize you have to deal with your own expectations and failures from your past or you end up projecting on your children

  • You can't take things personally.  99.9999% of the time it really isn't about you and your children are just where God wants them to be.  It is really okay for your child not to like the same exact things you do or to do a back flip when you decide to make crepes from scratch.

  • Most of the time your children aren't trying to be mean spirited, hurtful, rude, or obnoxious.  That's just our own stuff again assuming the worst about them.  Now that does not mean our children are perfect, but there are more time than not to give them the benefit of the doubt or at least hear their side before handing down judgement.

  • There is nothing wrong with allowing your children to do the absolutely foolish.  They learn by experience.   My son wanted to wear a ski jacket in 95 degree weather.  Instead of fighting with him, I allowed the foolishness and when we returned home later that afternoon, he informed me that he would not do that again.  Lesson learned.

For those of us entrusted with the scared task of parenting, enjoy the journey.  Allow your child to show you how to make the most of each day - that's what children are good at doing naturally and along the way share what you love with them!!

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